Episode 77: Neutralize

Uncategorized Jul 04, 2022

 

Many of my clients go through a cycle of experiencing extreme highs and lows in their emotions when it comes to quitting viewing pornography. They might feel on top of the world a week, a month, or two months into quitting, but then slip up, and inevitably fall into a spiral of feeling terrible about themselves. 

The key here is making the process lighter. To do that, we need to neutralize your porn habit. This means that instead of being on the rollercoaster of extreme highs and lows, we have to keep our emotions as close to neutral as possible because this is what will make quitting easier, quicker, and more effective. 

Listen in this week to discover the power of neutralizing your unwanted porn habit. I’m showing you why you can’t quit long-term from a place of indulging in dramatic, intense emotions, and how to generate emotions that will help you sustain not only quitting porn, but any habit you want to create in your life. 

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Episode 76: “I’ll Never Quit” Thoughts

Uncategorized Jun 27, 2022

We are addressing “I’ll never quit” thoughts this week. If you’re anything like my clients, the thoughts your brain loves to offer when it comes to overcoming pornography often sound like, “I’m never going to quit,” or, “I’m never going to figure this out.” But are these thoughts really true? 

How do you feel when you believe you’ll never be able to quit viewing pornography, or that your life will forever be ruined by this unwanted habit? Paralysis and fear are never far away, and actually quitting becomes almost impossible. However, the good news is these thoughts aren’t facts, and I’m showing you how to see the difference. 

Tune in this week as I show you how to examine your “I’ll never quit” thoughts so you can start chipping away at them. You’ll discover why these thoughts stop you from finding a solution to quitting pornography, and how to practice disproving these...

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Episode 75: Healing Wounds from Sexual Shame

Uncategorized Jun 20, 2022

This week’s topic is one that I address all the time in my coaching work with clients, in my emails, and right here on the podcast. It’s something I’ve brought up over and over again, and it’s a subject worth repeating and talking about in various ways. 

So many people are hurting, wounded, and suffering in silence from sexual shame. More and more people seem to be having a difficult time quitting viewing pornography and generally coming to terms with their sexuality, whether it be having sexual experiences with their spouse, or experiencing an urge while they’re out and about. Instead of this being normalized, too often, we’re told we need to be fearful of potentially slipping up.

These wounds are painful and harmful, and they aren’t necessary. If this is you, know that you deserve healing from that. In this week’s episode, I’m showing you how to become aware of the stories that are fueling your sexual shame, and how to...

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Episode 74: Pitfalls of Accountability

Uncategorized Jun 13, 2022

How many times have you told yourself that you’re going to quit viewing porn, and then don’t follow through? You tell yourself you’re not going to look at it, or that you’ll finally quit cold turkey one day, and yet, that day never seems to come. So, if your self-trust feels completely demolished, you’re not alone. 

Quitting porn is all about trusting yourself, but when having your own back feels unfamiliar, we seek external motivation. This is where accountability comes in. We’ve been testing out a six-week accountability group inside my program, but there are some pitfalls with accountability that I’ve observed, and I’m sharing them with you today. 

Join me this week if you’re currently seeking an accountability group or partner to help you quit porn. I’m offering why accountability is not the answer to finally figuring out your porn habit, and how to start building the muscle of self-trust so you can...

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Episode 73: What’s Possible with Sam

Uncategorized Jun 06, 2022

On this week’s What’s Possible interview episode, you’re hearing from my client Sam. His history with unwanted pornography is one I think so many of you, if not all of you, are going to resonate with, and even though you might not believe it right now, you’re going to leave this episode with hope that this habit doesn’t have to be your truth forever. 

If you’re currently attempting to use willpower, trying to ensure that you never slip up, and shame or guilt seems to be your default state, listen in. You’ll hear how Sam has tried everything from signing up for a 12-step process, going to dental school, and believing marriage would solve his urges, only to find that none of it worked. 

Listen in this week to discover why the work of overcoming pornography goes so much deeper than just addressing unwanted porn use. Sam is sharing how he no longer dreads his day-to-day life, and why he feels free to seek excellence in all aspects of...

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Episode 72: What’s Possible with Logan

Uncategorized May 30, 2022

Welcome back to another What’s Possible interview this week. There is nothing more powerful than listening to stories of people who have done what you want to do for your life, and if you look at my program and think, “If only that would work for me,” you’re about to hear from someone who was in the exact same place.

Logan is on the show today to share his journey of struggling with pornography, the soul searching he had to do along the way, and his experience of coming out on the other side with a new belief in himself. He’s here to challenge the narrative that you have to struggle with porn forever, and instead, that it’s normal and doable to overcome this habit. 

Join us this week as we dive into the work Logan has done to overcome pornography and the impact it’s had on the rest of his life. I think you’ll find his story extremely relatable, so I invite you to drink in his success, feel your own belief rise as you listen in,...

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Episode 71: What’s Possible with Cannon Goslin

Uncategorized May 23, 2022

Do you wonder if quitting porn is possible for you? Have you tried harnessing the belief that you could, only for it to feel completely unrealistic and impossible? If you’re stuck in this state of, “Maybe it’s possible,” my guest this week is the beacon of light and possibility that you need to hear from. 

Cannon Goslin is one of my clients who has been in the Overcome Pornography for Good program for the last nine months. At 23, viewing pornography is a habit he’s struggled with for close to a decade, and like you, he wasn’t sure it was something he would ever be able to leave behind. And yet, since working together, he’s completely transformed his life in more ways than just going porn-free. 

Join us this week as Cannon shares the biggest transitions and most significant breakthroughs he’s experienced in the last year. He’s a shining example of how this work is about so much more than just quitting porn, and why he...

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Episode 70: Overcome Your Most Difficult Urge

Uncategorized May 16, 2022

When do you experience your most irresistible urge to view pornography? For many of my clients, these moments of desire that feel especially challenging run the gamut from being off of work and having time alone on weekends, to stress or going through a rough patch. 

Whatever your specific scenario might be, know that you’re not alone. These instances where you’re experiencing your most difficult urge often trigger so much drama about how you’ll never be able to quit or live up to be the kind of person you want to be. But the truth is it doesn’t have to feel so intense, and I’m showing you why this week. 

Join me this week as I show you how you might be making your struggle with your most difficult urge harder than it needs to be. You’ll discover why avoidance is not the same as overcoming the urge, and the key to finding a real long-term solution.

If you want help learning how to overcome your most difficult urge, I have the perfect...

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Episode 69: 3 Things That Keep You Stuck in Porn

Uncategorized May 09, 2022

Whether it’s been 20 years or 20 days since you’ve developed the habit of viewing porn, you don’t have to stay stuck here. As my clients work with me and start learning the basics of overcoming pornography, I’ve noticed a pattern of the same things that keep coming up over and over, and it’s time to address them. 

If overcoming pornography is something that’s left you feeling isolated and confused, know that you’re not alone. The truth is that everyone is facing similar struggles in trying to quit porn, and this week, I’m identifying three things that might be holding you back, rather than propelling you forward.

Join me on this episode as I highlight the three things that are keeping you stuck in porn. You’ll hear why tracking progress by the number of days without porn isn’t effective, the power of learning to examine your thoughts, and why going through the discomfort of your urges doesn’t have to be as...

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Episode 68: Stop Settling

Uncategorized May 02, 2022

 

There are so many buffers that we use on the daily that has us avoiding our lives. Whether that’s watching pornography, playing video games, or eating ice cream to hide from experiencing our feelings, this form of escape that we’re seeking has us settling for a life that’s mediocre and barely manageable. 

The truth is, the choice is always yours. You can spend your days settling for escaping from your life, or you can choose to create a life you never want to escape from. You can spend your time and energy taking loving care of your brain and pushing past the limits that you think are currently holding you back, or not. And we only get one life, so let’s stop settling. 

If you’re ready to stop settling for feeling unworthy, accepting lies about yourself, and the exhaustion that comes along with trying to use willpower at every turn, listen in. I’m showing you why buffering with pornography has you settling for a life you’re...

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