What stories do you have about yourself? Whether you’re conscious of it or not, you have a story that’s playing in your mind all the time of who you are, what you’re doing, and what you’re capable of. Sometimes, this story is extremely painful and creates a lot of negative results in our life. On top of that, it might not even be true.

If you have a painful story about who you are and everything you’ve done wrong, it’s impossible to feel good about yourself in a sustainable way. You’re just creating a cycle of negative emotion, negative action, and negative results. So, if you’re ready to tell a new story about yourself that isn’t influenced by shame and judgment, this episode is for you.

Tune in this week to dig deeper into your story of you. I’m giving you a practical exercise to get clear on the ways your story of you is leaving you feeling unworthy and shameful, so you can get clear on the facts of your story and how...

For many of us, the beginning of a new year is when we start talking about how much we want to change, our resolutions, and the new habits we want to build. However, before we do that, we need to take a close look at all the amazing things that have already happened.

So this week, I’m sharing a year-in-review exercise I love doing at the end of a year. It’s very simple, but if you carve out the time to do it, I promise, you will be in awe of where you are right now and excited about everything you are about to accomplish by the end of this year.

Join me this week to learn my year-in-review process and the importance of focusing on all of your noteworthy accomplishments from 2022. You’ll hear how this will set you up with the right energy to get going in 2023, and I’m also offering a visualization exercise that will help you begin imagining all the amazing wins you’re going to experience this year. 

If you’re ready to do this work and start...

I was recently a guest on Michael Anderson’s podcast Everyday Impact. In each episode, he asks his guests one simple question: if there was one lesson you would share with the world on how you’ve built a life of meaning, what would it be? So, in this episode, I’m answering exactly that question for myself.

Because I’m the one being interviewed, you’ll hear about my experience learning my number-one lesson, my personal stories, how I work with my clients, and a bunch of other fun stuff that I’m sure you’ll find applicable to your own journey with quitting viewing pornography. Michael is a therapist with an amazing mind and a great heart, and I can’t wait for you to share in this conversation.

Tune in this week to discover my one lesson to the world. I’m discussing with Michael Anderson how change happens not when we’re shamed into a different behavior, but when we align ourselves with our values while loving and accepting...

When one person in a relationship has been viewing pornography, their partner can see this as a betrayal. In these situations, it’s common for there to be some hiding or lying on one side and potentially some betrayal trauma once the porn use has been disclosed. So, how can you create trust when these difficult relationship dynamics come up? Well, my guest this week is here to answer that exact question.

Geoff Steurer is a licensed marriage and family therapist who has been helping couples and individuals repair and improve their most important relationships for over 20 years now. He focuses on helping couples recover from dealbreakers like infidelity, pornography use, and sexual addiction.

Tune in this week to discover how to start creating trust after betrayal trauma. Geoff Steurer is addressing the pain that occurs on both sides of the situation, what the porn viewer can do to heal themselves as they heal their relationship, and the power of coregulation as you move...

While there are lots of people out there bragging about losing weight or breaking other habits that aren’t serving them, there aren’t many people sharing their success with quitting pornography. This fosters a belief that quitting porn is impossible, or that you have to be stuck with this habit forever, and this is just not true.

This is why I love sharing success stories from my clients. Chaz is one of them, and he’s got so many great insights to share with us about his journey in this week's episode. There are specific challenges around quitting porn, especially if you’ve been raised in a conservative religion, and as a member of the LDS Church, Chaz did the work to challenge some of those narratives while continuing to keep his faith.

Join us this week as Chaz shares his experience of struggling with pornography and learning the skills of overcoming this habit, all while making it work within his faith beliefs. He’s sharing the trajectory of his...

We are at episode 100! I’m so proud to have reached 100 episodes in as many consecutive weeks, and I’ve learned a lot along the way. So, in this episode, I’m sharing the top lessons that have come out of making this podcast over the past two years.

There’s been a ton of growth since I started this podcast. My program has grown, helping more and more clients change their pornography habits. My team has grown so we can create more resources and help more people. But there have been lessons and challenges every step of the way, and I’m sharing them all with you in this episode.

Tune in this week to discover my top lessons from 100 episodes of Overcome Pornography for Good. I’m discussing what I’ve learned in regard to being productive without burning out, showing up with commitment and effort, how to make the difficult things fun, the importance of focusing on happiness as well as success, and the things that have kept me going on this...

Can you guarantee success? The truth is, no one else can guarantee success for you, but you can make it a certainty for yourself. Nobody else out there can do the work for you. This is all about taking responsibility for your own healing, and cultivating a mindset that makes success inevitable.

Whether you’re thinking it consciously or unconsciously, it’s easy to blame other people for how we operate. You are not responsible for your trauma, woundedness, and hurt, but you are responsible for your healing and whether or not you view porn moving forward. Even if you have urges, you don’t need to answer them with pornography. So, how do you live from that place of self-responsibility?

Tune in this week to decide what you want your future with porn to look like, and start taking responsibility for creating that result. I’m sharing why only you can guarantee that you’ll quit porn, and why this is the best news ever.

At this time of year, it’s so easy...

As humans, we naturally want to do all the things. We set goals like losing weight, improving our finances, quitting drinking, working on the house, traveling more, and quitting pornography all at the same time. However, if you want to challenge yourself and achieve a new goal, like quitting porn, you need laser focus.

Sure, all of the things you want to do are important. But if you’re working on so many areas at once, you won’t end up achieving anything significant. So, I’m here to encourage you to try on some discipline, not allowing your brain to convince you that you need to do everything all at once.

Tune in this week to discover how to start laser-focusing on the goals that are most important to you. This is one of the lessons that has changed my life dramatically, and laser focusing on one thing at a time will change everything for you as well, allowing you to love yourself as you are, and achieve your goals from that place.

At this time of year, it’s...

When you have a big, lofty goal like quitting porn, but you don’t truly believe you can do it, how do you move forward? When we go after something new, it’s common to have a looming monster in the background telling us, “You can’t do that.” Well, this episode is all about what to do in those moments when you can’t shake the self-doubt.

The truth is, having a goal that you are intimidated by isn’t a bad thing. In fact, in my opinion, this is the best, most exciting way to live. Living outside of our comfort zone is how we accomplish amazing things. So, if you’re listening to this podcast because you hope you can quit porn, but you’re not sure exactly what that process might look like, you’re in the right place.

Tune in this week to discover what to do when you don’t believe you can do it. We’re talking about this in relation to quitting porn, but you can apply this logic to any goal you’re pursuing....

So many people who are struggling with unwanted porn use believe that if they allowed themselves to feel acceptance of where they are right now, they would immediately start justifying their actions and therefore won’t try to change. But what I have found is that the opposite is true.

Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” This is what radical acceptance means. Practicing radical acceptance won’t mean you’ll stay stuck, it's what will fuel the change you want. So this week, I’m offering my favorite sentences that you can add to your Emotion Doc to help you access this emotion.

Join me on this episode to discover what radical acceptance means, what it looks like in practice, the energy radical acceptance will bring to the actions you take, and how to practice feeling this emotion on purpose using the Emotion Doc.

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing...