Episode 142: Ask a Coach: The Shame of Slipping Up

Uncategorized Oct 02, 2023

We are currently on a podcast season break and regular podcasting will resume January 1st 2024! While we’re on a hiatus, we are still going to be bringing you brand new content every single week by sharing an Ask a Coach Q&A from me or one of our coaches inside Overcome Pornography for Good.

The first question from Ask a Coach I’ll be answering on this week’s episode is all about processing the shame that comes from feeling like you’ve made progress and checked all the boxes, and yet, you’ve still slipped up and viewed porn. 

Listen in today to hear my answer to the question of slipping up and processing the shame that comes from feeling like you’ve failed. I’m showing you why slipping up doesn’t mean you’re not progressing, and the importance of not discounting the work you’re doing, even if it isn’t manifesting right away.

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Episode 141: Season Break & Suffering vs Pain

Uncategorized Sep 25, 2023

Over 141 episodes of the podcast, we’ve covered tons of helpful topics for helping you quit viewing pornography. So we’re taking a short break, which is the perfect time for you to put into practice everything you’ve learned over the years. In this episode, the topic we’re covering is one of the things I want you to keep in mind during this season break: suffering versus pain.

It’s great to understand in your head conceptually what it takes to heal, but when you’re doing the work and implementing it in your life, everything starts to change. I’m bringing you this concept of suffering versus pain in the hopes that you can take your understanding of this concept to the next level.

Tune in this week to discover the difference between suffering and pain. I’m showing you where your suffering is really coming from, why suffering is not worse than pain, and what you can do to stop your suffering. We’re taking a three-month break from...

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Episode 140: Boundaries with Spouses, Family, and Religious Leaders

Uncategorized Sep 18, 2023

In a recent podcast episode with Jessica Farmer, we delved deep into the purpose of disclosure and how to navigate disclosing aspects of your porn habit with loved ones. However, a conversation we need to have in parallel to disclosure is about boundaries. It’s a topic we aren’t taught enough about, especially when it comes to porn use.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of punishing yourself if you’re struggling with viewing porn. You might find yourself engaged in conversations with your spouse, family, friends, or religious leaders that are in breach of what feels safe to you. Whether they’re leaning on fear and shame tactics or want to know details you aren’t comfortable sharing, you are allowed to set boundaries while building deep connections and trust with those people.

Join me this week to learn how boundaries can work in tandem with building honesty and transparency with the people you care about. You are the authority on your spiritual...

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Episode 139: A Fresh View on Sin with Tyson Bradley

Uncategorized Sep 11, 2023

Sin is a term that’s historically been connected to salvation and a determinant in whether we’re worthy of God’s love. It’s no surprise, then, that we operate from a place of fear and shame around our perceived sins. However, if we know that sin is associated with shame and, at the same time, we don’t want to get rid of the idea that there is good and bad, what’s the solution? 

This week, I’m joined by Tyson Bradley to explore a new perspective on sin. Tyson is a certified life coach and founder of Inherent Identity, a company focused on empowering God-loving people to create identity-based changes that last. He’s here to offer a fresh view on sin and how this could be the most freeing work you can do in overcoming pornography.

Tune in today to hear Tyson’s insights on why we need to redefine what sin means and where it comes from. We discuss how our current beliefs about sin perpetuate shame, what we consider to be...

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Episode 138: What’s Possible with Josh

Uncategorized Sep 04, 2023

This week, I'm bringing you the last "What's Possible" interview I have planned, and we're celebrating my client, Josh. Josh's story is filled with hope and connection, and he's truly an example of what you can achieve when you approach your porn habit with confidence and curiosity.

Like many people in the Overcome Pornography community, Josh first started watching porn as a pre-teen and was immediately hooked, despite having intense feelings of shame and believing that he shouldn’t be viewing it. This started a cycle of porn use, shame, and failed attempts to quit. However, he has made immense progress in both his porn use and feelings of shame around it, and he's here to share it all with us on the podcast.

Tune in this week to hear how Josh went from feeling intense pressure about quitting porn to successfully quitting by accepting that his progress with porn would never be linear. Josh shares his advice for dealing with slip-ups as you start quitting pornography, and...

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Episode 137: Disclosure Tips with Jessica

Uncategorized Aug 28, 2023

This week, I'm joined by Jessica Farmer, one of the amazing coaches in my program Overcome Pornography for Good. I love her and everything she has to share about the important work we do in the world. This week, she's here to discuss her tips for disclosing porn use in your relationship.

Jessica has a deep passion for helping people with their relationships and also runs her own business working with people whose spouses are struggling with a mental diagnosis. Even under the best of circumstances, relationships can be messy and complicated, and how you deal with disclosing your porn use in your relationship can have a massive impact on your relationship dynamics. If you need any help in this area, youre in the right place.

Whether you are considering telling your spouse about your pornography use or you’ve already told them and it has become a point of contention, we’re exploring it all this week. Jessica shares her tips for disclosing your porn use to your...

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Episode 136: What’s Possible with David

Uncategorized Aug 21, 2023

Welcome to another What’s Possible interview this week! I’m joined by our Overcome Pornography for Good client David and his one-on-one coach Jessica, and we’re here to explore his journey of navigating his pornography habit.

Just like many of our clients who have the desire to heal their pornography habit, David developed a ton of shame, guilt, and insecurity about it. He went seven years without telling anybody he was viewing pornography, and when he did reach out for support, he transformed so much more than just his porn habit.

Join us on this episode as David shares his porn journey with us and how coaching helped him realize the tools he obtained can be applied to more than just quitting porn. He’s sharing the point at which he realized he needed support, the change that happened in his mindset, and where he is today.


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Episode 135: Fixing Things Is Exhausting You

Uncategorized Aug 14, 2023


All of us, at one point or another, can get into a perpetual state of trying to fix every single thing about ourselves. Whether it's a porn habit, losing weight, or anything else, what often happens is that we fix one thing, only for another to surface, and so the cycle continues.

While our brains are programmed to look for what’s wrong with us, it’s not true that there’s always something wrong with you. Constantly fixing and solving what we perceive to be a problem is exhausting. And this week, I want to offer the idea that all parts of you are wise and have something valuable to offer, even the part of you that desires porn.

Join me this week to discover why you don’t have to feel shame about your desire for porn, and how to redirect that energy in other ways by listening to it and learning from it. You’ll hear why it’s worth exploring what you currently believe is a problem and how to use your bodily wisdom to create the life you...

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Episode 134: Pornography and Parenting with Heather Frazier

Uncategorized Aug 07, 2023


If you’re a parent, your kids being exposed to pornography is something you might be worried about. Being a kid today is vastly different than when you were growing up. After all, kids today have access to the internet, and people are viewing porn from a younger age, so it’s a big topic for sure. If you need any help or reassurance in this area, my guest today has got you covered.

Heather Frazier is an awesome parenting coach for parents of teenagers. She had me on her podcast recently, and I’m sharing that conversation about parenting and pornography on today’s episode of Overcome Pornography for Good.

Tune in this week to discover the proven, most effective way of protecting your children from the world of pornography. We’re discussing the value of proper age-appropriate sex-positive education, why your kids viewing pornography doesn’t mean that they’re addicted, and how to talk to your kids about their porn use in a productive way....

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Episode 133: Spirituality: Loved, Held, Guided, and Never Alone

Uncategorized Jul 31, 2023


Leading psychologist on the benefits of religion and spirituality, Dr. Lisa Miller said, “It is perceiving being loved, held, guided, and never alone. This is in every person’s capacity to perceive.” 

This is what spirituality has to offer us. No matter our specific religion, the language we choose to use, or our relationship with God or the universe, the ability to feel loved, held, guided, and never alone is something that is innate to us. It’s our birthright, and according to Dr. Lisa Miller’s research, there are huge benefits to trusting in your spirituality.

Join me this week as I show you why developing the perception of being loved, held, guided, and never alone is an important part of healing your pornography journey. I’m sharing my own spiritual practice with you, the difference between head or body knowing versus heart knowing, and what happens when we go through life feeling loved, held, guided, and never alone.



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