Episode 157: Keep It Simple – Commitment

Uncategorized Jan 15, 2024

If you want to quit porn, the best way to reach your goal is to keep the process simple. We make things unnecessarily complicated and confusing, so to continue our Keep It Simple series, we’re talking this week about step two: commitment.

When you commit to the goal of quitting porn, that commitment can’t come from a place of fear and shame. You need a more compelling reason to quit. I’m letting you in on what those compelling reasons could look like for you, so you can start fully committing to your journey of overcoming pornography for good.

Tune in this week to discover a new perspective on commitment to quitting porn. I’m discussing the problem with coming at your commitment from a place of fear and shame, and you’ll learn how to reframe your thoughts around why you want to quit porn, increasing your chances of being successful in the process.

 

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Episode 156: OCD with Jill Freestone

Uncategorized Jan 08, 2024

Why does the habit of viewing porn cause so much pain and suffering? Does trying to overcome it feel like an obsession? What does OCD have to do with porn use? And how might you identify if OCD is present for you?

Jill Freestone is an anxiety coach for teens and adults who specializes in helping them explore and understand life’s big emotions. She’s also an expert on the topic of OCD, and she’s here this week to highlight how OCD relates to people who want to quit porn and why understanding scrupulous tendencies can help steer you toward the path to healing.

Join us on this episode as Jill offers her insights on the basic characteristics of scrupulous OCD, why it becomes a problem, and how to identify if it may be present for you. We’re also diving into how scrupulous OCD keeps us stuck, why it feels like an obsession, and her top tips for beginning to question and heal these tendencies.

 

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Episode 155: Keep It Simple – Learn and Move On

Uncategorized Jan 01, 2024

It’s easy to think that the concepts I’m sharing here are complicated and that you need to work through everything to experience the benefit of this work. That’s why I decided to create the Keep It Simple series, so you can take small steps toward overcoming pornography.

There are six milestones I cover in the Overcome Pornography for Good program. The first thing I have my clients work on is Learn and Move On, where we work on avoiding all-or-nothing thinking and turn your slip-ups into stepping stones to successfully quitting porn.

Tune in this week to learn how to keep it simple when you’re quitting pornography. I’m showing you why you don’t need to give up every time you slip up, and you can use every challenge you encounter as an opportunity to Learn and Move On.

 

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Episode 154: Year in Review: A Simple Exercise for Visualizing 2024

Uncategorized Dec 25, 2023

We are on the cusp of the New Year, which for many people often means thinking about all the changes we want to make and the new habits we want to create. We tend to focus on the negatives, but I’m proposing that we need to pay just as much attention, if not more, to all the wins you’ve experienced.

If you’re like me, you’ve spent years focusing on what’s missing, and it leaves us pretty miserable. It blocks any kind of momentum from building, and if you can instead celebrate all your wins and drop into deep gratitude and joy, 2024 is going to look a whole lot different. 

Join me this week as I take you through my Year in Review exercise and explain why this is going to set you up with the right energy as you enter 2024. You’ll hear the value of acknowledging all your wins so far and imagining 2024 ahead of time, and questions that will guide you along this visualization process.

 

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Episode 153: Ask a Coach: Why You’re Stuck

Uncategorized Dec 18, 2023

“I’m feeling stuck, what do I do?” 

This is a variation of a question we hear from lots of people at different stages of their journey. The thought, “I’m stuck,” is one all of us indulge in when the path ahead feels uncertain and unknown, but the truth is you’re not stuck and Coach Kat is here to show you why.

Listen in this week to discover why we default to saying we’re stuck even when we’re not, what it actually means to feel stuck, and Coach Kat’s top tips for getting unstuck no matter what you’re navigating right now.

 

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Episode 152: Ask a Coach: When You Slip Up

Uncategorized Dec 11, 2023

If you slip up and view pornography, do you struggle for the rest of the day?

This week’s Ask a Coach is from someone who found that if they view pornography early in the day, they don’t bother trying to avoid pornography until they get a fresh start the next day. This is common when people are trying to quit porn, it’s a product of all-or-nothing thinking, and it isn’t helping you find peace and ease in quitting porn.

Tune in this week to discover how to make sure a slip-up doesn’t ruin your day. I’m discussing how to measure your progress on your journey of quitting pornography, showing you why slipping up isn’t a problem, and you’ll learn how to keep making progress toward your goal of quitting porn even if you’ve slipped up in the morning.

 

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Episode 151: Ask a Coach: Good Shame vs Bad Shame

Uncategorized Dec 04, 2023

Is all shame bad?

This is the premise of this week’s Ask a Coach question. The truth is, it all comes down to semantics, and my answer is both yes and no.

Join me today to hear my thoughts on why no emotion is inherently bad, how emotions can be either helpful or unhelpful, and how to identify whether the shame you’re experiencing is serving you.

 

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  • Why emotions can be both useful and unhelpful.

  • The difference between guilt and shame.

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Episode 150: Ask a Coach: The Reality of Learning New Skills

Uncategorized Nov 27, 2023

Does learning to process your urge to view porn feel so overwhelming that everything else in your life falls by the wayside? Why do all the other things that matter to you feel gargantuan when processing urges?

This is the question Coach Tina is addressing on this week’s Ask a Coach episode. Household chores, showing up to work, and friendships suddenly seem like enormous tasks, and this question asker is wondering what they can do when processing their urge to view porn feels unsustainable.

Tune in this week to hear how to balance the skill of processing urges with the other goals you’ve set for yourself. Coach Tina is offering what could be happening if learning to process your urges feels overwhelming, and how to take care of yourself so it doesn’t feel like everything is slipping out of your grasp.

 

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Episode 149: Ask a Coach: 5 Areas of Self-Care to Focus On

Uncategorized Nov 20, 2023

Jessica Farmer is back on the show to answer this week’s Ask a Coach question! 

The question goes, “Do you have any tips on not getting fed up or burnt out from all the urge processing?” If you also feel completely tired and overwhelmed, or find yourself falling into resistance rather than allowing your urges to view porn, listen in to hear Jessica’s answers.

Hear why the practice of processing the urge to view porn might be resulting in extreme tiredness and overwhelm, how self-care makes processing urges easier, and Jessica’s insights on five areas of self-care you must prioritize in your day-to-day.

 

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Episode 148: Ask a Coach: All Emotions Have a Shelf Life

Uncategorized Nov 13, 2023

Do you feel more antsy in your physical body as you view less porn? Maybe you can’t stop bouncing your legs or find yourself constantly fidgeting, and maybe it’s leading to a strong urge to view porn so you can stop feeling so antsy. 

This is the challenge posed by this week’s Ask a Coach question asker, and Jessica Farmer is on the show to offer her insights. 

Join Jessica on this episode to hear her top tips for processing uncomfortable emotions, how all emotions have a shelf life, and the power of letting any emotion be present until it eventually dissipates. 

 

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